Stay with me because you might find this interesting. When I found myself suddenly free from a fixer-upper house, the crushing mortgage that came with it and the 60 hour work week required to pay for that mortgage it was a little jarring. Those unfortunate circumstances limited my career, lifestyle and location choices. It was a crappy situation to be in for sure, but it was a simple crappy situation. Now… free from that house, tons of choices that were answered in a compulsory way are now up for debate. Things are not simple anymore.
I think I was so busy trying to keep my head above water that I lost sight of my guiding passions and desires. I lost sight for long enough that by the time I was free to pursue them again I was a different person.
Here’s what I’ve been doing to get myself pointed in the right direction.
1. I try not to take on more than one decision at a time.
2. If the answer to a question is not presenting itself, I back up and find a method for finding an answer. For example I got myself into photography school as a way to direct my unfocused photographic passion.
3. If 1 and 2 don’t do the trick, walk away for a while and wait for inspiration. Enjoy not being under pressure.
I’m getting pretty good at looking at only one question at a time. I’ve never been that good at multi-tasking so it works for me.
I’m also pretty good at backing up and looking at the things from a meta perspective. It’s kind of a brain teaser to do this and I love a good brain teaser.
I’m not so good at walking away from things. Maybe it’s a control thing, maybe it’s just habit, but I feel lazy when I’m not actively focused on fixing or solving the issue at hand. I don’t really know how to relax. Yeah, I have an off switch, but that just means that I know how to sleep. So now I need to learn how to walk away for a while and relax. See how this works? Work on the problem and then work on how to work on the problem.
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